NOTE: the resources listed below may use the term "health care workers." We have confirmed that they are also available for crisis mental health staff, school linked mental health staff, mental health providers/therapists, child protection staff, case managers, social workers, and paramedics.
"Hi! How are you doing?"
Some time in May, I stopped asking this automatic greeting to my colleagues. On the heels of COVID-19, the death of George Floyd, and community protests... I logged into a Zoom meeting and found myself alone with one person. Both of us were a few minutes early and our other meeting attendees had not joined us yet. I smiled and asked, "How are you doing?" The long pause and the look on my colleague's face said it all. But instead, she answered "Good. How are you?" As we talked a bit more, it became clear that she was not doing well at all. In fact, she shared that she was barely holding it together.
It reminded me of visiting the doctor's office. Nose dripping and chest wheezing, we wait to be seen. And when a doctor arrives with a smile and says, "Hi! How are you doing today?" We inevitably answer, "Good. How are you?"
But we are not doing well. We are not doing well at all.
So, I told myself that when there is not enough time to listen, I will stop using this empty greeting. Instead I will say, "It's nice to see you" or "It's good to hear your voice." Or maybe I will try a phrase like Namaste or Shalom.
But I will also prioritize time to listen. I will intentionally find more opportunites to hold spaces of healing, belonging, and hope. During those times, I will ask "How are you really doing?" and I will give time to hear an authentic reply. Because helpers need help too.
Where can helpers go for help?
Free Service Call to speak with someone in a safe, anonymous and confidential environment between 9am and 9pm. Minnesota Psychiatric Society is teaming with the MN Psychological Association, the MN Black Psychologists Association, and Mental Health MN to offer 20-minute support services calls to support you during these times of high stress. 1-833-437-3466
In response to the COVID-19 pandemic, we have created a new FREE program to support healthcare workers in accessing mental health resources. Contact us at email@example.com or 651-321-2340 for more information.
Join with your own "Buddy" or have one assigned to you. PeerRx is a FREE, peer-to-peer program for physicians and others working in health care (or, mental health care.) It is designed to provide support, connection, encouragement, resources, and skill-building in order to help participants advance along the Burnout to Thriving Index (Burnout —> Surviving —> Fine —> Well —> Thriving) toward optimal well-being, however you would define that state for yourself. The foundation of the PeerRxMed™ program is PeerRx90, also known as PRx90™, which is structured to support paired clinicians through a “buddy system” and provide a platform to facilitate encouragement, accountability, and mutual support/growth.
We aim to provide PRO-BONO therapy for front line health care professionals. Due to licensing board regulations, therapists have to be licensed in the state you reside in to provide telehealth services. Please choose the state you currently live in to see all therapists licensed in that state. Then, select a therapist with availability that most closely matches yours. The therapist will contact you directly to schedule an appointment.
This free online retreat to help build individual and community resilience during this stressful time.
Secondary Traumatic Stress: A Fact Sheet For Organizations Employing Community Violence Workers Learn strategies to prevent or reduce Secondary Traumatic Stress (STS). STS is the emotional duress that results when an individual hears about the firsthand trauma experiences of another.
Virtual Calm Room Visit this online space to de-stress and relax.
Family Service Providers Blog Find self-care ideas and professional resources to support youth and families during these very stressful times.
Do you need help finding resources for a family? firstname.lastname@example.org
Is there a community need that we could help to address? email@example.com
Do you just want to vent? Text the keyword "provider" to 56525 or use the chat feature on our website. Your comments will be private and confidential.
Please let us know if you have FREE help for helpers that we can list on this blog.